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AM I WORTH?

AM I WORTH? My daughter does not approach me if she needs something, my wife isn't aware of what I need, my parents don't want to understand what matters to me, .. and so many more such experiences. All pointing towards, Am I Worth? I have experienced this umpteen times and there are moments when I still experience them. It's like asking ourselves, am I really needed or Am I really worth someone taking interest in me. We all have a need to be fulfilled and feel taken care of. We all want to be understood. We all want someone to fill that space where we feel uncomfortable. And this urge just grows as we recognise the chasm between what we want to feel or to be grows wider from what we experience ourselves to be now. We start associating ourselves with our current reality and don't see a way to bridge that chasm. It looks more and more unattainable and distant. It feels like we are only going down the spiral and no one to hold on to. No one to understand and be there. In those moments...

by Ranjit Nair

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Fear and Your Response

One day my wife approached me with a fear of tomorrow, specifically the upcoming Monday. She expressed feeling overwhelmed by the multitude of tasks that needed to be done in preparation for the Monday morning. She expressed her concerns about not being able to do anything in the face of these overwhelming responsibilities. As I observed her, it was evident that she had accumulated a mental mountain of responsibilities, making everything appear insurmountable. Curious about the source of her distress, I asked if this had been bothering her for a while. She clarified that it was only in the present moment that she felt helpless. I asked her what would happen if she didn't complete tomorrow's tasks. She explained that it would mean going hungry and the children would have to go to school without food. I then asked her, "So what about that?" She responded that she wouldn't feel good about it and emphasized that it was not just about her but about taking care...

by Ranjit Nair

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EMOTION and HER RESPONSE

Lately, we had been teaching our daughter the importance of identifying and naming her emotions. Little did we know that this morning would provide the perfect opportunity for her to put her newfound knowledge into practice. As she woke up in the morning, our daughter discovered that the tooth fairy hadn't brought her the specific item she had been hoping for. Instantly, anger erupted within her, and she vented her frustration by demanding a parent pick-up from school. We declined her request, which only fueled her anger further. Sensing an opportunity for a teachable moment, I asked her to identify the emotion she was experiencing. Without hesitation, she replied, "Anger." Curiosity sparked within me as I posed the next question: "Who is winning now, Anger or you?" It was at that moment that a realization began to dawn upon her. She recognized that she was allowing her anger to overpower her. In a way, she personified Anger as a separate entity, engaged in...

by Ranjit Nair

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Looking Within for Missing pieces

My coaching sessions often bring out magical experiences and deep insights into human behavior which are equally amusing for my clients and me. But the real beauty of a session comes out when just a slight nudge by me pushes a client into deep self-realizations, so much so that they then do not need me to explain any further. Their challenges and situation become clear to themselves, empowering them to take corrective steps wherever required. I recently had a similar session with a client, which turned out to be a beautiful self-realization story. My client, a young lady, came to me with complaints...

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THE LANGUAGE WE SPEAK TO OURSELVES

Many of Us are not aware that like we talk Outside, we also have conversations Inside. While we are consciously aware of the conversations we have with others, we may not always pay attention to the conversations happening within us. WHY is it so? And WHAT is this language being spoken inside? WHAT's its importance? Let's try to understand. The reason why many people are not aware of their inner talk or do not actively experience it is because it is not as emphasized or explicitly taught as external communication. From a young age, we are taught language skills to communicate with others, but we may not receive the same level of guidance or education on how to engage in effective inner dialogue. What is this Inner Talk? When we are performing an action outside, we experience various emotions. And these emotions are there to assess how ready we are for the action in hand. For e.g. you might experience emotion of rage because you are not resourceful enough to handle the...

by Ranjit Nair

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Intention vs Assumption : The Power Play

It was a casual Sunday morning drive to the neighborhood superstore that turned into an episode of learning, self-discovery, and in the end, a moment of contentment. I want to edit it. Last Sunday, I went to the grocery store in my neighborhood to pick up our usual supplies. As I stepped out of my car and started walking towards the store, two young, decent-looking men approached me from the side. They introduced themselves as a team working with an NGO (Non-Governmental Organization - Not For Profit organization) which supported kids who had lost their families due to COVID. Today, they were looking for some help from me. As they introduced themselves, my natural inclination was to help them with whatever they needed. But while they were asking for my help, I sensed an inner conversation in my head telling me that whatever they were saying could be fake. Many negative thoughts about this whole thing being a setup started to crop in my head. Self-aware of the inner conflict...

by Ranjit Nair

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Fulfillment - From Unknown to Knowing Self

Introduction: Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you obtained what you desired, yet still felt a sense of incompleteness? Have you experienced receiving compliments from others but still feeling unsettled? If you can relate to these experiences, the following content will help you understand the underlying dynamics at play. The Two Selves: Let's consider that there are two aspects of our being: the Inner Self and the Outer Self. The Outer Self is the part of us that interacts with the physical world through our senses of touch, sight, smell, sound, and taste. It seeks fulfillment through external experiences, outcomes, and solutions, with the aim of pleasing the mind. For example, when we visit a burger joint to satisfy a specific craving, it is our Outer Self that seeks fulfillment. Similarly, when we go shopping and purchase an item because of a heavy discount, it is our Outer Self driven by the desire for a good deal. In contrast, the Inner Self relies on the...

by Ranjit Nair

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